While here in Honduras I’ve come to understand, more clearly, some of the complexities of the problems in this country. I’ve spoken with three different men, on multiple occasions, who are very intelligent and whose lives are significantly invested in helping the people of Honduras to make changes for the better. I get the sense from all three of them that they feel very much like it is an uphill battle, but that it is a battle that they feel compelled to wage. They are not blindly pushing forward but are constantly looking for better ways to bring about change.
One of them described a scenario which tends to replicate itself. Imagine that you are a seven year old boy whose father decides to go work in the United States so that he can earn money and send it home to his wife and family. Soon the family starts receiving about $200 per month, which is significantly more than an average worker could make here in Honduras . Eight years later, he is now fifteen and he hasn’t seen his father in eight years, but because of his father’s work, his family does better than those around whose father is working here. He has no incentive to work because the money comes even if he lies around doing nothing. As he gets a little older, his natural desire is to go to the US like his father. When you add to that the lure of the adventure of going to the US it’s almost a foregone conclusion that he is going to try it.
You can add to that problem. Most of the men who go to the US were at home with their mothers until they married. Then they had their wives to help take care of them. When they get to the states, loneliness and temptation is a huge problem. So they start a family in the US as well.
Now, you have many of the best Honduran workers who have moved to the US, which leaves many of the less motivated and less desirable men here in Honduras . It’s easier to rob little old ladies and children on the way to the store than it is to go out and work at a job, so they often choose that over getting a job. With time and money on their hands they often turn to alcohol and drugs. It is a pretty discouraging picture.
One of the men asked me one day if I felt Americans were optimistic or pessimistic. I told him that I generally considered Americans to be optimistic. He concurred and he said he felt like most Hondurans were pessimistic. He described a scenario which he felt like represented the different attitudes from Americans and Hondurans. He said each country is like a can with 10 crabs in it. The American crabs will work together to get someone to the top and then that crab on the top will reach down to help the next one up and they will eventually get all the crabs out of the can. He said that Honduran crabs will see that someone is almost to the top of the can and they will reach up and pull him back down. It’s like they can never get out because they self destruct. Naturally, he’s very frustrated, at times, about the mindset of the Honduran people.
Everyone agrees that the hope for the future is in changing the attitudes of the children. They agree it is in the educational process. Therefore, there is much emphasis in trying to educate the children—which is a part of the reason Bonnie and I were invited to come help out in the school. Not only do they hope we can help with the English pronunciation, but I sense a desire that we can also help instill in the children a sense of making a difference in the future of their country. I think they want to see the type of attitudes that Americans have and hopefully some of that attitude will rub off on them. It all seems like we can do so little—any of us. It is a mountain to move and all we have are teaspoons, but at least we have teaspoons.
Having been raised in America , I was always reminded in ways I didn’t even realize, that I could make things happen—that I had some control over my destiny. The opportunities for success in the US are basically unlimited. I think about the lives of all my brothers and sisters and how we have all been successful in our chosen fields even though each of those fields is totally different. We live in nice homes and have had good educations. Our children are all going out into still other fields and are successfully providing for their families. It is just becoming clearer and clearer to me how blessed we are to have been born in America . It truly is an amazing place. It truly is an amazing culture of opportunity. Though there are many misconceptions about America in third world countries, no one has a smidgeon of doubt about the fact that it is the land of opportunity. Every single one of them either has family in the US or knows someone who has gone to the US . And, to some degree they are in awe of America and of Americans.
Obviously, I don’t know what the future holds for Honduras (or America ), but I know that because of the blessings I have received, I want to do my part to help those in Honduras (and America ) who need it. I thank God for blessing me and my family so bountifully. And I pray that he will give me wisdom in using these blessings to his glory and for the good of my fellow man. On this Fourth of July I realized that we have independence in so many ways that are not readily available in most parts of the world. And we generally take it for granted. Today, I do not. I more clearly understand how great a blessing it is. God Bless you as you count your blessings with thanksgiving and as you use them to make this world a better place. Dennis